About Writing LettersSo you ask me how to write letters better. This is really the question: how to express yourself in a few words so that a person on the other edge of the planet could feel somehow your personality, your life goals, hopes and dreams. People are very different: you may be very reserved and to write a couple of words may mean real sufferings for you, especially if you write to Russia, to a strange woman speaking a strange language -- God knows how such a woman may interprete all your exhausting efforts and attempts??? There are standard "format" letters that do not differ from each other like lay figures in the store do not differ from each other. Writing such a letter, describing yourself as a good, honest, sincere, hardworking person (maybe you really are!) who acheived much in his life and now wishes to create the family and to share everything that he has in the life with the right woman (though it is all true!) -- writing such a letter you write as if about someone else, appropriate and perfect, and a partner of that ideal person may be also only ideal -- the most beautiful, kind and sincere lady living somewhere very far, longing to meet that ideal man (you?) , and that ideal couple existing in your imagination usually has nothing to do with what really exists here and there. As for her, she maybe lives somewhere in a small flat on the 7th (for example) floor of one of standart blocks in a big city, she gets up very early every day and drags her sleepy kid to the kinder-garten and then runs to her work, and then does something there, then runs back to the kinder-garten, or school to take her child, then cooks dinner, does homework or plays with her kid, then does some other household chores and at last -- writes her letter to you and describes her life also as life of an ideal woman doing nothing else than dreaming about her prince. There are so many words in the world, so many beautiful ones and harsh ones -- what words to use describing your life so that it could seem realistic? There are many levels of understanding -- you may wri- te, and all you will write will be true, but it still will be so far from what is in reality... What words to choose? How to let understand another person who is so far from you in space, background and even in time, who you are and what your life really is? I would advise you to describe details: small details of being of which your life really consists: I would not advise to tell about it in general words, I would advise to tell about your real experience: what you really feel when you feel lonely, what you really think about when you think that you wish to find a nice woman to share your life with? When do you feel especially lonely? Looking at kids playing in the courtyard? Or meeting pretty women in the street? Or visiting happy families of your married friends? Try to look into yourself, don't be afraid to ask yourself questions and to reply them, then, writing your letter, maybe you will understand something new about your own life, and that attempt will be certainly appreciated. Don't be afraid to open yourself at once -- a wrong woman will be immediately alienated, the right woman will write you her letter at the same level of openness and frankness and you will not waste your time in empty genteel converstaions. I really don't know what else to advise. Maybe to remain yourself always and to wait for rather good than bad from correspondence ( and life in general) as optimists, of course, live longer.
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